Navigating Divorce: Discovering Your Goals for a Positive Future

When you divorce, it’s essential to know and understand your goals and aspirations for the future. Getting clear on your future goals will set you up to make decisions during your divorce to move you towards what you truly want.  But how do you do figure out your goals?  In this blog post, we’ll explore practical strategies to help you figure out what you want not just for your divorce but your goals for the life you want to live.

Prioritize Self-Care

First, know that self-care during divorce is crucial. Take time for self-reflection, engage in activities that bring you joy, and nurture your physical and emotional well-being. Taking care of yourself will equip you to understand your desires and make decisions that support your longterm happiness.

Read: Our Clients’ Top 5 Tips for Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce

Reflect on Your Values and Priorities to Uncover Your Goals

Next,  by reflecting on your values and priorities. Consider what matters most to you, what brings you joy and fulfillment, and what you envision for your future. Understanding your personal core values will provide a foundation for defining your goals during the divorce process.

Read: How to Figure Out Your Personal Core Values

Visualize Your Ideal Future

Allow yourself to dream a little.  Think big –we’re looking for your ideal future post-divorce. Envision how you would like various aspects of life to look.

For example:

• What do you want for your relationships and career?
• What sort of personal development would you like to do?
• Where do you want to live?  By the water, in a city, or somewhere rural with a lot of land?
• What’s your home like — are you thinking of something that’s less work or envisioning the garden of your dreams?
• Is your physical fitness a priority and do you have any goals in that regard like running a marathon, picking up tennis, or losing weight?
• How often do you travel, and where?  Do you want to bike across Ireland?  Spend two weeks on a beach with a book and no cell phone?

The sky is the limit. This visualization exercise can help clarify your desires and provide a future to strive towards.

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Identify Your Preferences

Take time to identify your preferences, both personally and practically. What are your emotional, financial, and logistical desires moving forward? Consider living arrangements, financial stability, co-parenting, and personal growth. By clearly defining these nuts and bolts, you can make informed choices that support your ultimate goals.

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Your Hopes for Your Children

If you have children, their well-being is likely one of your top considerations. Reflect on what you want for them in terms of their upbringing, stability, and relationship with both parents. Then, aim to establish goals related to parenting that will support and promote their emotional and physical well-being and foster a healthy co-parenting dynamic.

Read: Moving Forward Together: Healthy Habits for Your Children in Two Households

Work With a Divorce Attorney Focused on Your Personal Goals

The right divorce attorney can provide valuable guidance during this process. We can help you explore your options, provide insights based on our expertise, and assist you in aligning your goals with the legal and practical aspects of Connecticut divorce.

Read: How to Have a Good Divorce

Get and Stay Flexible

Your goals may evolve throughout the divorce process (and throughout your life). Therefore, embracing flexibility and adaptability is crucial as you gain new insights and circumstances shift. Remain open to revisiting and adjusting your goals, ensuring they align with your evolving needs and aspirations.  And, if you learn that reality is an impediment to one of your goals, stay flexible on that, too.  Figure out the closest version of your dream given the current reality of your situation.

Read: When Reality Doesn’t Match Up With Your Vision

Next Steps

Figuring out what you want in your divorce is a deeply personal and reflective process. By reflecting on your values, identifying your needs, visualizing your ideal future, seeking professional guidance, considering the well-being of children, prioritizing self-care, and embracing flexibility, you can navigate this journey with greater clarity and purpose. Remember, defining your goals allows you to make informed decisions that pave the way for a positive and fulfilling future beyond divorce.