Positivity and Divorce: 4 Ways to Create a Positive Future Starting Now
Positivity and divorce — it’s not only possible but it’s within your control. As we step boldly into 2020, refreshed by the new beginnings and possibilities ahead, we challenge you to make this the year that you leave your past behind you and start thriving today! If you’re reading this after a year that included some significant life changes and hurdles (like divorce), we want to remind you that there is always an opportunity in every situation to create a new story starting exactly where you stand. Remember, you are not in control of other people’s actions, but you are in control of your reactions to them. That means you have 100% control over your own happiness.
Here are four ways that you can create a positive future starting now.
4 Ways to Unlock Your Positivity During Divorce
1. Adopt a Positive Outlook
Let’s face it: While staying at home and relaxing is necessary from time to time, allowing grief and resentment to rule your life can be disempowering and isolating. Regardless of how you arrived where you are today, one thing to remember is that your future is full of choices and you can decide how you want it to look and feel. Starting now. You can accept invitations from friends to go out and you are absolutely allowed to have fun and do things you know you will enjoy. Spending time with fun-loving and positive people will lift your spirits like few things can.
2. Rediscover What You Love
Instead of immediately looking for someone else to share your life with, rediscover the things you love to do on your own. Perhaps you enjoyed classical music but your former spouse disliked it so much that you couldn’t even play it in the home. Now would be a perfect time to treat yourself to concert tickets, a classical music album, or even lessons if you always wanted to learn to play an instrument. Give yourself permission to re-embrace everything you gave up for the sake of your partner, and revel in the resulting positivity and sense of promise.
3. Be Kind to Yourself
Remember the words of your friendly airline attendants: “Please put on your own oxygen mask before helping others.” Taking care of yourself is not only important, it’s vital. You’ve got family, friends, work, and everything in between. On the heels of a year that likely filled your plate to the limits, it’s time to reset and recharge. Your body takes on stress in the form of tension, aches and pains that grow over time. Listen to their signals and decide if connecting to a new exercise regime, massage therapy or a meditation class feels like the right path. Reach out to friends and family members, or even a therapist, if you’re in need of time to talk and sort through the array of emotions you’re working through. It’s completely normal to need help as you transition from married to single. You are capable of accomplishing so much, so connect with those who can provide guidance and cheer you on as you discover a new and rewarding relationship with yourself.
4. Decide Who You Want to Become
You’re no longer married, so you’re in a position to become whoever you want to be. Take a minute and summarize and envision the new you, and make an action list of the steps you need to take to get there. Give yourself dates by when you want to accomplish these things and hold yourself accountable for living your best life.
Do you want to make a career switch? Investigate training or apprenticeship opportunities in fields that interest you. Do you want to live in a different state or even country? Start looking for career opportunities there.
Your priorities and goals may change the more you explore. If so, great! You’re discovering what is truly important to you, and it’s worth adventuring down a detour or being open to changes of plan. What matters is that you reach a destination that makes you truly happy.
Now that you have learned four keys to help you unlock your positivity during divorce, what do you do next? At Freed Marcroft we are your biggest cheerleaders when you take those huge and important steps toward a positive and fulfilled future. If you need assistance with your own divorce situation, we are here to listen, set goals together, and get you started on the road to a new and happy you.
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