What I Ask of You in 2021

screenshots of Apple Watch monthly activity challengesI love a competition.  Doesn’t matter the prize.  Kristen says “just give her a sticker.”

In January 2019, two years prior to this writing, I committed to completing every Monthly Challenge on my Apple Watch for the entire year.  (That’s correct.  It need not be an actual sticker.  A virtual sticker works just well.  Wind me up and watch me go.)

For the uninitiated, on the first of every month, Apple’s algorithm delivers you a new challenge for the month.  For example, this December Dr. Apple prescribed that I close all three of my activity rings on at least 17 days.  To get the September badge I had to earn at least 1,719 exercise minutes.  My Monthly Challenge is different from Selena’s, Selena’s is different from Brandy’s, Brandy’s is different from Courtney’s.  Courtney’s is different from Natasha’s.

You get the gist.

(By the way, none of my Apple Watch-wearing Freed Marcroft teammates care about this whole thing as much as I do — but in my heart, I know that they do care a little.)

I’ve learned that goal setting above all needs to be flexible enough so that even if I “have a day” (or a week), I can still course-correct and accomplish the goal.  The Monthly Challenge thing builds in this flexibility.  It’s doable — you don’t have to be perfect every day.

What This Post Is and What This Post Isn’t

❎ This is not a post about how you should get an Apple Watch and do the monthly challenges.

❎ This is not a post about how I just completed 24 straight months of challenges.  (I didn’t.)

❎ This is not a post about how I just completed 18 straight months of challenges.  (I did.)

This is a post about June 2019.

June 2019

In May 2019, the world hadn’t yet plunged into a pandemic.  We hadn’t heard of a mysterious Coronavirus-related pneumonia in Wuhan, China, because COVID-19 didn’t even exist.  I wasn’t sick or hurt, there was nothing physically impacting my ability to complete the (remember, quite flexible) monthly challenge.  It was just personally a bad, hard month.  And I let the circumstances of life and the way I felt about other people’s decisions trump the promise I made to myself.  (A weird promise, but a promise.)  May 2019 is the one I let get away.

But, this post isn’t about May 2019.  It’s about June 2019.

In June 2019, I completed the required 19 workouts and got my digital sticker.

That’s it.  That’s everything.

What I Ask of You in 2021

In honor of what I learned in June 2019, I ask three things of you in 2021.

➡️ First, you will make at least one specific, achievable commitment to yourself to improve your life.  It can be about your physical fitness, about reading more, about getting out of an unhealthy relationship — whatever is the most critical first step to get you to the life you want to live.

➡️ Second, you will forgive yourself when you mess up.

➡️ Third, you will own that mess-up and get back on the damn horse.

This is your one life we are talking about.


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