Concerns About Your Children: How Will This Affect Them?
We understand that among your most pressing concerns is how your divorce will affect your children. You might wonder when and how to discuss the changes with them, and how best to support them during this transition.
How We Help You Navigate This
It’s generally advisable not to tell your children immediately, mainly because early in the process, you might not have clear answers to their inevitable questions. At Freed Marcroft, we understand the importance of professional support in developing a thoughtful approach. Many of our clients find tremendous value in working with therapists who specialize in supporting children through divorce, and we’re here to connect you with trusted professionals, so you have the support you need throughout.
If you’d like a referral, please reach out via Case Status or bring it up with your attorney during your Strategy Session—we’re here to assist you every step of the way.
Read: What to Expect at Your Strategy Session
Helpful Guidelines to Discuss Divorce With Your Children
In the meantime, here are some helpful guidelines for discussing divorce with your children:
- Stay calm and steady. Your children will mirror your emotional state.
- Keep the conversation age-appropriate. Provide enough information for understanding, but avoid overwhelming them with unnecessary details.
- Reassure them that they are loved and secure. Let them know clearly that everything will ultimately be okay, life will move forward, and they remain deeply loved.
Read: How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce: The Fine Line Between Honesty and Oversharing
Practical Strategies for Co-Parenting Success
Your divorce doesn’t have to mean instability for your children. Some keys to successful co-parenting include:
- Maintaining predictable routines. Consistency provides comfort and reduces anxiety.
- Clear and respectful communication between parents. This models healthy interactions and minimizes tension.
- Aligning on parenting approaches. Consistent rules and expectations across both households offer your children clarity and reassurance.
At your first Strategy Session and beyond, we can dig into the best approach for custody and parenting given the nuances of your family.
