Divorce is commonly ranked among the most stressful life events one can endure – up there with the death of a spouse or child. Even the most amicable divorces place a toll on your time, money, attention span, and overall well-being.
A high-stress time like divorce might feel like the wrong time to start a wellness plan. But the changes in your life can also make it easier to adopt new habits. Since everything around you is changing, why not change how you approach your daily life?
Here are our favorite cornerstones for wellness during and after divorce:
- Get back to basics.
Create a schedule that allows you to get adequate sleep, and defend it. Sleep is essential to your mental processing and emotional stability – both of which you need to stay strong through a divorce.
Then, make sure you eat regular meals. While a full diet overhaul might tax your memory too much at this point, make an effort not to skip mealtime. Your body needs fuel to manage stress and help you think clearly. Get enough healthy fats, protein, vegetables and fruits; and reduce the amount of free sugars and non-nutritive simple carbs.
Finally, get moving. Some people find that joining a gym gives them essential “me time” and helps them make new friends. (And compelling evidence suggests that strength training can improve insulin sensitivity as well as body composition.) Others discover that simply adding a walk or two to their day helps them to de-stress and stay comfortable. Do what works for you.
- Get in touch with your emotions.
There are no wrong feelings – but there are certainly better and worse ways to deal with them. Reading self-help articles, talking to a therapist or to trusted friends, establishing a regular meditation practice, keeping a journal, and having a little fun every day can all help you manage your feelings.
And, of course, be gentle with yourself. Giving yourself space to feel – no matter how conflicting or frustrating your feelings are – is essential to reconnecting with yourself and staying grounded during a divorce.
- Consider your spiritual well-being.
Spirituality is a deeply personal matter. For some people, their religion fills this role; for others, it’s a deep conviction in the goodness of people, a desire to save the earth, or a love of music. Whatever feeds your soul, make time for it now.
Not only will these approaches help you tackle some of the biggest doubts and questions that a divorce brings (Why is this happening? Can I trust anyone again? What’s the point?), but it will also help you stay connected with the parts of you that you love the most – which in turn will help you set new goals and build a life you can love after divorce.
At Freed Marcroft, we’re dedicated to helping our clients not only survive divorce, but also thrive. We want to help you build a promising future, and we want you to feel good enough to seize every opportunity the future holds for you. To learn how we can help you reach these goals, contact us today at (860) 560-8160 to arrange a confidential, strategic conversation.
For more information, check out some of our blog posts on this topic:
- Divorce Tips From Caesar in Honor of the Shortest Day of the Year
- Thinking About Divorce? Take These 4 Steps to Prepare Yourself
- Christmas, Divorce, Mediation, and Gratitude: Lessons From A Former Client
- Turning Back the Clocks and Divorce
- The Long Game and Divorce
- May It Be Infinite While It Lasts
- Divorce and Brick Dust
- On Independence and Divorce, From a Wise Former Client (and Mary Oliver)
- Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Compliment Yourself on National Mirror Day
- Our Clients’ Tip for Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce: Get Outside and Exercise
- Natasha Roggi of Hartford Sweat on Yoga For Stress Relief
- Our Clients’ Top Five Tips For Taking Care of Yourself During Divorce
- Finding Happiness After Divorce
- Don’t Add Fuel to the Fire: Five Tips for Smoother Communication During Divorce
- Landing on Your Feet (and Other Lessons on Life From Divorce Clients)
- How to Help Your Children (and Yourself!) Deal with Divorce and the Holidays
- Halloween an Opportunity for Divorcing Parents to Create the “New Normal”
- What People Going Through a Divorce Can Learn From Cheryl Strayed’s Wild