Why Mediate Your Divorce?: 6 Key Benefits

Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process, but contrary to what television would have you believe, it doesn’t have to be contentious. While litigation is necessary in some circumstances, for many couples, mediation is an effective alternative that allows you and your spouse to reach your own agreement. In divorce mediation, a neutral mediator assists a divorcing couple in arriving at a mutually acceptable Read More

Who Gets the House? How Connecticut Handles Property Division

When you and your spouse make the decision to divorce, two major and often contentious issues arise. One, if there are children, is child custody. The other is how marital property will be divided. In other words, who gets the house? Or the retirement accounts? Or the summer cottage that your spouse’s parents gave him a couple of years ago? Worrying about asset division should not make you feel petty or greedy. In Read More

Groundhog Day and Divorce: Do’s and Don’ts

Groundhog Day is a bigger deal in my family than it is most -- that is to say if it any kind of deal at all in most.  My Dad was born on February 2, so checking in on Punxsutawney Phil and winter prediction is part of the birthday ritual. By the way, hot off the presses, Phil saw his shadow (as he always seems to) around sunrise at this morning.  If you're a believer, that means six more weeks of winter.  Heck, Read More

What To Do When Divorce Is Your (Or Your Spouse’s) New Year’s Resolution

"Sam" found out about his wife's decision to divorce on New Year's Eve. "She said she wanted to talk, and I assumed we were going to resolve together to lose our post-Thanksgiving weight.  Instead, it turned out that her resolution was to divorce.  Didn't exactly make me want to break out the Veuve I had chilling." For Sam's wife, making the decision had been a difficult and lengthy process.  Many of our Read More

What Carrie Fisher and Paul Simon Teach Us About Divorce

Over here at Freed Marcroft we have been struggling with the untimely passing of Carrie Fisher.   Fisher held a special place in the hearts of so many girls of the 1980s -- and Freed Marcroft has so very many girls of the 1980s. I have read more wonderful Carrie Fisher quotes in the past few days than I could have conceived.  Other than the sassy ones, the one that really got me was the one we shared on Freed Read More

Divorce Tips From Caesar in Honor of the Shortest Day of the Year

We made it.  Today may be the winter solstice, but tomorrow we turn the corner and begin the annual progressive march into light. We humans are so attached to light that we operate on a solar calendar.  Ideally, the first day of the solar year and the first day of the calendar year would be lined-up, one and the same.  Given that "Post-Truth" has been declared the 2016 word of the year, I want to tell you a little Read More

Thinking About Divorce? Take These 4 Steps to Prepare Yourself

If you are considering divorce, there are a lot of important decisions that you have to make. One of the most important is getting yourself properly prepared before the petition is filed, you tell the kids, and one of you moves out. Although divorce may change your life for the better, it’s a process that has to be backed by careful preparation and smart decision making. Step One: Get Your Finances in Order A Read More

What Every Couple Should Know About Collaborative Divorce

Divorce is always an emotionally challenging experience, but the collaborative approach takes away that stereotypical adversarial aspect. Instead, collaborative fosters a cooperative environment where you and your spouse can resolve problems, agree on key issues, and preserve the integrity of your relationship. The latter aspect of collaborative divorce is especially important when you have children and want to Read More

Dissolution Without Borders: What You Need to Know About International Divorce

Getting divorced is challenging enough, but if you and your spouse live in different countries, it’s hard to know where to begin and what to do afterwards. Where do you file to commence proceedings? And how is the divorce order enforced, especially as it pertains to child custody and division of marital property? It’s a complicated situation that can apply to couples who consist of: Two American citizens with Read More

Turning Back the Clocks and Divorce

Subtitle: "Why Do We Hate Light?" I woke this morning to an iPhone that read "4:30 am," and was mildly annoyed until I realized it was "really" 5:30 am and I had just gained a quiet hour of pleasure reading.  Carpe diem. Mostly, though, I think Daylight Savings Time (thanks Ben Franklin!) is brilliant.  Keep it around all year, I say. On the longest day of the year, the sun bathes Connecticut for more than Read More