Why Mediate Your Divorce?: 6 Key Benefits

Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process, but contrary to what television would have you believe, it doesn’t have to be contentious. While litigation is necessary in some circumstances, for many couples, mediation is an effective alternative that allows you and your spouse to reach your own agreement. In divorce mediation, a neutral mediator assists a divorcing couple in arriving at a mutually acceptable Read More

Groundhog Day and Divorce: Do’s and Don’ts

Groundhog Day is a bigger deal in my family than it is most -- that is to say if it any kind of deal at all in most.  My Dad was born on February 2, so checking in on Punxsutawney Phil and winter prediction is part of the birthday ritual. By the way, hot off the presses, Phil saw his shadow (as he always seems to) around sunrise at this morning.  If you're a believer, that means six more weeks of winter.  Heck, Read More

What To Do When Divorce Is Your (Or Your Spouse’s) New Year’s Resolution

"Sam" found out about his wife's decision to divorce on New Year's Eve. "She said she wanted to talk, and I assumed we were going to resolve together to lose our post-Thanksgiving weight.  Instead, it turned out that her resolution was to divorce.  Didn't exactly make me want to break out the Veuve I had chilling." For Sam's wife, making the decision had been a difficult and lengthy process.  Many of our Read More

What Carrie Fisher and Paul Simon Teach Us About Divorce

Over here at Freed Marcroft we have been struggling with the untimely passing of Carrie Fisher.   Fisher held a special place in the hearts of so many girls of the 1980s -- and Freed Marcroft has so very many girls of the 1980s. I have read more wonderful Carrie Fisher quotes in the past few days than I could have conceived.  Other than the sassy ones, the one that really got me was the one we shared on Freed Read More

Divorce Tips From Caesar in Honor of the Shortest Day of the Year

We made it.  Today may be the winter solstice, but tomorrow we turn the corner and begin the annual progressive march into light. We humans are so attached to light that we operate on a solar calendar.  Ideally, the first day of the solar year and the first day of the calendar year would be lined-up, one and the same.  Given that "Post-Truth" has been declared the 2016 word of the year, I want to tell you a little Read More

Thinking About Divorce? Take These 4 Steps to Prepare Yourself

If you are considering divorce, there are a lot of important decisions that you have to make. One of the most important is getting yourself properly prepared before the petition is filed, you tell the kids, and one of you moves out. Although divorce may change your life for the better, it’s a process that has to be backed by careful preparation and smart decision making. Step One: Get Your Finances in Order A Read More

How to Develop a Great Parenting Plan

When parents split, the dynamics of the entire family change. Two households are created, living arrangements are no longer the same, and the children no longer have both their parents with them at the same time. To minimize stress and set the groundwork for a positive future, you and your spouse should put aside personal differences and create a great parenting plan that is both realistic and favors the needs of Read More

Christmas, Divorce, Mediation, and Gratitude: Lessons From A Former Client

As is often the case, Joan and Rob weren't on exactly the same page when they came to us.  (By the way, names have been changed to protect the privacy of the wonderful.)  One spouse had considered divorce for awhile and, though emotional, was ready.  The other spouse wasn't ready and was just beginning to work through some deep sadness surrounding the ending of the marriage. Mediation Rob and Joan decided to Read More

“Provincial” Connecticut Meets French Provinces: International Divorce Strategy

Connecticut gets (gives itself?) a bad rap for being provincial.  Our clients indicate it is anything but. In just the last couple of weeks, Freed Marcroft has arranged for service of process on spouses in two different European countries, the British Isles, and Canada.  This fits in with the trend we have seen at Freed Marcroft over the last several years. Connecticut, Friends, has become very, very Read More

Turning Back the Clocks and Divorce

Subtitle: "Why Do We Hate Light?" I woke this morning to an iPhone that read "4:30 am," and was mildly annoyed until I realized it was "really" 5:30 am and I had just gained a quiet hour of pleasure reading.  Carpe diem. Mostly, though, I think Daylight Savings Time (thanks Ben Franklin!) is brilliant.  Keep it around all year, I say. On the longest day of the year, the sun bathes Connecticut for more than Read More