Collaboration or Mediation?

Divorce is a major life change for you and your children, but it doesn’t have to be conflict-laden or emotionally devastating. Although most people think that divorce is characterized by a nasty and drawn-out courtroom battle, it is actually possible to end a marriage in gentler ways that protect the children and preserve the dignity of your relationship with your former spouse. These alternatives to traditional Read More

What To Do When Divorce Is Your (Or Your Spouse’s) New Year’s Resolution

"Sam" found out about his wife's decision to divorce on New Year's Eve. "She said she wanted to talk, and I assumed we were going to resolve together to lose our post-Thanksgiving weight.  Instead, it turned out that her resolution was to divorce.  Didn't exactly make me want to break out the Veuve I had chilling." For Sam's wife, making the decision had been a difficult and lengthy process.  Many of our Read More

What Carrie Fisher and Paul Simon Teach Us About Divorce

Over here at Freed Marcroft we have been struggling with the untimely passing of Carrie Fisher.   Fisher held a special place in the hearts of so many girls of the 1980s -- and Freed Marcroft has so very many girls of the 1980s. I have read more wonderful Carrie Fisher quotes in the past few days than I could have conceived.  Other than the sassy ones, the one that really got me was the one we shared on Freed Read More

Divorce Tips From Caesar in Honor of the Shortest Day of the Year

We made it.  Today may be the winter solstice, but tomorrow we turn the corner and begin the annual progressive march into light. We humans are so attached to light that we operate on a solar calendar.  Ideally, the first day of the solar year and the first day of the calendar year would be lined-up, one and the same.  Given that "Post-Truth" has been declared the 2016 word of the year, I want to tell you a little Read More

Thinking About Divorce? Take These 4 Steps to Prepare Yourself

If you are considering divorce, there are a lot of important decisions that you have to make. One of the most important is getting yourself properly prepared before the petition is filed, you tell the kids, and one of you moves out. Although divorce may change your life for the better, it’s a process that has to be backed by careful preparation and smart decision making. Step One: Get Your Finances in Order A Read More

How to Develop a Great Parenting Plan

When parents split, the dynamics of the entire family change. Two households are created, living arrangements are no longer the same, and the children no longer have both their parents with them at the same time. To minimize stress and set the groundwork for a positive future, you and your spouse should put aside personal differences and create a great parenting plan that is both realistic and favors the needs of Read More

Christmas, Divorce, Mediation, and Gratitude: Lessons From A Former Client

As is often the case, Joan and Rob weren't on exactly the same page when they came to us.  (By the way, names have been changed to protect the privacy of the wonderful.)  One spouse had considered divorce for awhile and, though emotional, was ready.  The other spouse wasn't ready and was just beginning to work through some deep sadness surrounding the ending of the marriage. Mediation Rob and Joan decided to Read More

“Provincial” Connecticut Meets French Provinces: International Divorce Strategy

Connecticut gets (gives itself?) a bad rap for being provincial.  Our clients indicate it is anything but. In just the last couple of weeks, Freed Marcroft has arranged for service of process on spouses in two different European countries, the British Isles, and Canada.  This fits in with the trend we have seen at Freed Marcroft over the last several years. Connecticut, Friends, has become very, very Read More

What Every Couple Should Know About Collaborative Divorce

Divorce is always an emotionally challenging experience, but the collaborative approach takes away that stereotypical adversarial aspect. Instead, collaborative fosters a cooperative environment where you and your spouse can resolve problems, agree on key issues, and preserve the integrity of your relationship. The latter aspect of collaborative divorce is especially important when you have children and want to Read More

[Webinar] “CT Same-Sex Couples & Stepparent Adoption: Your Name on the Birth Certificate is Not Enough”

On Thursday, November 17th at 5:30 PM, Freed Marcroft Attorneys Meghan Freed and Carla Zahner will host a complimentary webinar on stepparent adoption in Connecticut. The recent presidential election has highlighted the importance of adopting children of parents of the same sex.  This webinar will provide clarity on the current status of children who are biologically related to one but not both parents, will share Read More