Don’t Add Fuel to the Fire: Five Tips for Smoother Communication During Divorce

Even under the best circumstances, divorce is difficult.  There is so much emotion and so many parts of your life are in flux. Understandably, for many couples, maintaining productive, or even civil, communication during the divorce process can be a challenge.  Despite the difficulty, it is essential for your well-being (not to mention the well-being of your children, if you have them!) to be able to effectively Read More

Madonna’s Christmas Custody Battle & What a Connecticut Court Might Do

On Christmas, Madonna shared this photo of her and her son, Rocco, commenting “Merry Xmas to the sunshine of my life.” It is not uncommon for custody disputes to arise (or become more heated) during the holiday season.  When they involve celebrities, the family's personal struggle can wind-up in the press. So it is with the custody battle between Madonna and Rocco's father, Guy Ritchie, about where their 15 Read More

Landing on Your Feet (and Other Lessons on Life From Divorce Clients)

A year ago this week I – in a spectacular flailing demonstration more worthy of Clark Griswold than Nancy Kerrigan – broke my ankle “ice skating” during Winterfest at Bushnell Park. Note: As a board member of iQuilt (one of the main entities behind Winterfest), and as a cheerleader for Hartford, I strongly encourage you to enjoy the free ice skating.  As a world-class klutz, I encourage you to be careful while Read More

Catching up with Connecticut: The IRS Issues Proposed Rulings on the Definition Of “Husband” And “Wife”

In June, the Supreme Court ruled state bans on same-sex marriage were unconstitutional in Obergefell v. Hodges.  Accordingly, the Internal Revenue Service (IRS) has now issued proposed regulations under which marriages between couples of the same sex are recognized for all federal tax purposes, including income, estate, gift, generation-skipping, and employment tax. More specifically, the proposed regulations were Read More

How to Help Your Children (and Yourself!) Deal with Divorce and the Holidays

The holidays can create mixed feelings for many people, especially children still coming to terms with their parents’ divorce. For divorcing parents, the stress of the first “new normal” holidays can be immense. Being aware of and empathetic to how their child and they may be feeling can help alleviate some anxieties and ease the whole family’s transition through this potentially difficult time. If you find Read More

Halloween an Opportunity for Divorcing Parents to Create the “New Normal”

Both Halloween and divorce can be scary, and then there are the ghosts.  But Halloween presents an opportunity for transitioning families to have a fun holiday in advance of the more traditional holiday season. Even seemingly innocuous holidays like Halloween can elicit and exacerbate the conflicting emotions and fears the process of divorce can create.  Halloween is the unofficial beginning of the holiday season, Read More

The Real Reality Show: Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian

Lamar Odom and Khloe Kardashian are so often in the public eye that their tribulations can be easy to discount as products of the celebrity lifestyle and unrelated to our experience. Ironically, the current fascination with reality television shows and celebrity lives can desensitize us to our own possible reality. But these public figures are real people with real families in real situations. Although the latest Read More

Connecticut Mediated and Collaborative Divorces Gain Benefit Under New Law

Quite a bit of attention has been paid to the new law effective October 1, more formally known as Public Act No. 15-7, allowing faster and less expensive divorces for spouses who choose to have a non-adversarial divorce. Until this law was effective, all Connecticut couples dissolving their marriages, even those who had reached an agreement, were (1) subject to a 90 day waiting period before they could divorce and Read More

Why, After the Supreme Court Marriage Ruling, Same Sex Spouses Should Still Adopt Their Non-Biological Children

It has been less than one week since the Supreme Court's Obergefell decision holding that the 14th Amendment of the United States Constitution requires states to license marriages between two people of the same sex and to recognize lawful out-of-state marriages between two people of the same sex. Love won. Very understandably, we have already received multiple questions regarding whether, in light of Read More

Tomorrow Isn’t Another Day: Time to Do Your Estate Planning, Scarlett

Putting off what we perceive as the uncritical or unpleasant is one of the traits all but the purest among us share. Just google “Procrastination” and “Procrastination Quotes” and see how many hits you get. You find, for example, Hartford’s own Mark Twain, an inveterate procrastinator himself, advises us to “Never put off until tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.” Another wit, name unknown, notes, “Only Read More